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10 Ways to Connect Deeply While On Zoom

I’ve got good news and bad news for you. First, the bad news. Covid-19 is now fully out of control and the vaccine’s effect won’t be improving how we live for about another six months. That means we will still need to use Zoom to connect with friends and family for quite a while. Yet, I’m here to offer you some good news. It is possible — if you know the right methods — to connect very deeply with friends and family over Zoom. In fact, it’s even feasible for your connections to be even better over Zoom than in person. …


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10 Ways to Connect Deeply Over Zoom

I’ve got good news and bad news for you. First, the bad news. Covid-19 is now fully out of control and the vaccine’s effect won’t be improving how we live for about another six months. That means we will still need to use Zoom to connect with friends and family for quite a while. Yet, I’m here to offer you some good news. It is possible — if you know the right methods — to connect very deeply with friends and family over Zoom. In fact, it’s even feasible for your connections to be even better over Zoom than in person. …


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The 3 Keys to Relationship Cohesion

In an attempt to better understand how relationships begin, maintain, or slowly fade away, I propose a simple model that, I believe, can explain much of a couple’s behavior. The purpose of a model is to turn a complex world into a simple framework that is both insightful and of practical value. The “Relationship Cohesion” (RC) model I propose here can quickly help couples understand the relative “strength” of their relationship. In addition, this simple model can also be used to point the way towards creating greater stability and flexibility in one’s romantic partnerships.

The foundation of the RC model is that, at its simplest level, there are three “legs” to successful, stable relationships. These three legs could briefly be labeled as 1) Good Sex. 2) Proximity and 3) Love. Good Sex is pretty easy to define: both partners enjoy having regular sex together that is mutually satisfying. Proximity could be defined as both people living near or with each other. Obviously, “near” is relative. …


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“Are You a Zombie and Don’t Know It?”

In case you haven’t noticed, shows about the zombie apocalypse are all the rage on Netflix and Amazon Prime. Why is that? Because people sense such shows represent a dramatized version of what’s already happening in the world. Look around. It seems that everyone from the President on down is caught up in some kind of conspiracy theory, depression, or very strange behavior.

Unfortunately, people who are zombies don’t necessarily know that they’re zombies. Such sleepwalkers mindlessly follow the zombie masses, all the while thinking they are alive and have free will. Since it’s not easy to know if you have become a zombie, I have created a 10 statement test you can take to see if you have fallen into “zombieland.” …


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How to Get Your Man to Change His Ways

People will tell you that, no matter how your boyfriend or husband behaves, you shouldn’t try to change him. To that, I say, “Bullshit.” Hear me out. I have some credibility here. First, I’m a man, and I know how reckless and foolish we can be. Second, I’m a bestselling author of relationship books and have been a frequent guest on Oprah and CNN. Lastly, I’m a psychotherapist who specializes in teaching women how to change the men in their life — to much success.

As a psychotherapist, I have spent years hearing women complain about the men in their lives. At first, I did what I was trained to do: give them empathy and help them see how their actions were responsible for how their man behaved. But it takes two to tango. It was often clear to me that the men in their lives were in need of some major repair. Yet, men don’t like being told what to do, so I looked for and studied how a few women actually do get the man in their life to happily change. …


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Breaking Free of the Conspiracy Virus

Conspiracies are all the rage nowadays. It seems that Facebook has become a petri dish for conspiracy theories. Whether you’re a Democrat or Republican, Black or White, protester or Trump supporter, you can find a group that supports your particular brand of conspiracy ideology.

My particular belief is that some wicked force is trying to brainwash us all into believing ridiculous conspiracy theories. I’ve seen some of my friends — good people — get so brainwashed by their beliefs that I can’t even talk to them anymore. …


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Take the Red Pill Every Day

Recently, I had a close encounter with death. Death is an excellent advisor. Knowing of one’s imminent demise puts everything in perspective and helps cut through all the bullshit. So, while in the midst of my recent rendezvous with death, I asked “death” for advice: “What do I need to know to get the most out of life with the time I have left?” The answer was immediate: Take the Red Pill every day…

In case you’re one of the few people reading this article who did not see the movie, The Matrix, let me explain. In the movie, the main character, Neo, is given the option to take a blue pill or red pill. The blue pill represents playing it safe, self-deception, and living in a dream world. On the other hand, the red pill represents taking a risk, searching for the truth, and embracing one’s higher destiny. …


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What I Learned From Oprah About Delegation

If you want to really get a lot done in life or at work, one skill stands out: being able to get others to do what you want — better known as the art of delegation.

One of the times I was on the Oprah show, during a commercial break I asked Oprah how she managed to get so much done. After all, at the time I knew she had a daily TV show, a radio show, a magazine, and she sat on the board of something like 50 different charities. “How can you possibly do it all?” …


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Why Falling in Love is Like Psychosis

Falling in love is one of the greatest and most ecstatic experiences a human being can have. Yet, in most instances, it’s also a form of psychosis. As a psychotherapist that focuses on couple’s counseling, I get to see the highs and lows of this experience on a regular basis. By exploring falling in love in more detail, I hope to help people avoid the bad decisions that can result from this dangerous brain “drug.”

The dictionary defines “psychosis” as: “a severe mental disorder in which thought and emotions are so impaired that contact is lost with external reality.” That may sound like a harsh way of describing an amazing experience, yet I think it holds up. When two people fall in love, their thoughts and emotions often are “so impaired” that they do lose touch with what others would say is “reality.” …


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Why Aren’t You Loving Your Life?

Please excuse me for asking a confronting question, but, “Why aren’t you absolutely loving your life right now?” My guess is that you have some really good reasons, such as “There’s a pandemic going on, I have financial stress, and we have a dysfunctional government.” Perhaps you have many other reasons as well.

I don’t buy it. Our minds can always come up with reasons for not enjoying life, but they are all just made-up excuses. The problem is, we believe whatever excuses or stories rattle around in our heads. …

About

Jonathan Robinson

is the author of 12 books and a frequent guest on Oprah. His website is FindingHappiness.com and his podcast is “Awareness Explorers.” email: iamjonr@aol.com

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