How to Love the Alien You Live With

The bestseller, “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus” detailed how men and women are so different that they may as well be from different planets. As a psychotherapist that focuses on couple’s counseling, I can definitely appreciate the book’s message. At the same time, the people I counsel — many of them committed spiritual seekers — don’t really get how different men and women really are. This lack of awareness of how different men and women really are creates a lot of unnecessary suffering.

In case you think men and…


Awaken Now By Reading This Brief Article

Congratulations on choosing to read this essay. By giving your attention to an article such as this, it means you are spiritually advanced and want to awaken. But what does “awaken” mean? To me it means you shift your identity from feeling you’re an ego-personality, to feeling like you are a loving awareness, and part of something beyond a limited ego.

This shift in identity can last for a mere moment or it can last for your entire life, but either way, it feels timeless and eternal. In actuality, we are both an…


10 Ways to Connect Deeply While On Zoom

I’ve got good news and bad news for you. First, the bad news. Covid-19 is now fully out of control and the vaccine’s effect won’t be improving how we live for about another six months. That means we will still need to use Zoom to connect with friends and family for quite a while. Yet, I’m here to offer you some good news. It is possible — if you know the right methods — to connect very deeply with friends and family over Zoom. In fact, it’s even feasible for your connections…


10 Ways to Connect Deeply Over Zoom

I’ve got good news and bad news for you. First, the bad news. Covid-19 is now fully out of control and the vaccine’s effect won’t be improving how we live for about another six months. That means we will still need to use Zoom to connect with friends and family for quite a while. Yet, I’m here to offer you some good news. It is possible — if you know the right methods — to connect very deeply with friends and family over Zoom. In fact, it’s even feasible for your connections to…


The 3 Keys to Relationship Cohesion

In an attempt to better understand how relationships begin, maintain, or slowly fade away, I propose a simple model that, I believe, can explain much of a couple’s behavior. The purpose of a model is to turn a complex world into a simple framework that is both insightful and of practical value. The “Relationship Cohesion” (RC) model I propose here can quickly help couples understand the relative “strength” of their relationship. In addition, this simple model can also be used to point the way towards creating greater stability and flexibility in one’s romantic partnerships.


“Are You a Zombie and Don’t Know It?”

In case you haven’t noticed, shows about the zombie apocalypse are all the rage on Netflix and Amazon Prime. Why is that? Because people sense such shows represent a dramatized version of what’s already happening in the world. Look around. It seems that everyone from the President on down is caught up in some kind of conspiracy theory, depression, or very strange behavior.

Unfortunately, people who are zombies don’t necessarily know that they’re zombies. Such sleepwalkers mindlessly follow the zombie masses, all the while thinking they are alive and have free will…


How to Get Your Man to Change His Ways

People will tell you that, no matter how your boyfriend or husband behaves, you shouldn’t try to change him. To that, I say, “Bullshit.” Hear me out. I have some credibility here. First, I’m a man, and I know how reckless and foolish we can be. Second, I’m a bestselling author of relationship books and have been a frequent guest on Oprah and CNN. Lastly, I’m a psychotherapist who specializes in teaching women how to change the men in their life — to much success.

As a psychotherapist, I have spent…


Breaking Free of the Conspiracy Virus

Conspiracies are all the rage nowadays. It seems that Facebook has become a petri dish for conspiracy theories. Whether you’re a Democrat or Republican, Black or White, protester or Trump supporter, you can find a group that supports your particular brand of conspiracy ideology.

My particular belief is that some wicked force is trying to brainwash us all into believing ridiculous conspiracy theories. I’ve seen some of my friends — good people — get so brainwashed by their beliefs that I can’t even talk to them anymore. …


Take the Red Pill Every Day

Recently, I had a close encounter with death. Death is an excellent advisor. Knowing of one’s imminent demise puts everything in perspective and helps cut through all the bullshit. So, while in the midst of my recent rendezvous with death, I asked “death” for advice: “What do I need to know to get the most out of life with the time I have left?” The answer was immediate: Take the Red Pill every day…

In case you’re one of the few people reading this article who did not see the movie, The Matrix, let…


What I Learned From Oprah About Delegation

If you want to really get a lot done in life or at work, one skill stands out: being able to get others to do what you want — better known as the art of delegation.

One of the times I was on the Oprah show, during a commercial break I asked Oprah how she managed to get so much done. After all, at the time I knew she had a daily TV show, a radio show, a magazine, and she sat on the board of something like 50 different charities. “How can…

Jonathan Robinson

is the author of 12 books and a frequent guest on Oprah. His website is FindingHappiness.com and his podcast is “Awareness Explorers.” email: iamjonr@aol.com

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